He was and she is. But that can't be, because you cannot be in two tenses at one time. You see, they are and still are, but separately.
He was who he has always been. Not handsome but bright, not clever but understanding. She is who she was. And maybe will be tomorrow. We may never know.
She was who she wants to be. One day a dove, another a gazelle. She has been here and is not now. Not physically, anyway.
He might regret that. Or then again, not.